Alone Way To The Top
The higher you soar, the less people there will accompanying you at your level.
I am no longer part of any specific group. I am not a student. I am not an officer worker. I am not part of any class either.
The truth is, it's hard to be friends with people who aren't at the same level as you are.
Students relate to things students relate to. Workers relate to workers. Nobodies relate to nobodies.
I work at a different level, and truth to be told, almost no one is here.
I am not silent, "introverted" or act small either. Quite the opposite. When I went to live in China for a year, I had over 200 new contacts in my phone only after a few months of living there.
The experience was a great way to learn different nationalities and their character traits.
Now? The playing field is getting emptier and emptier.
We are a rare few, who actually do what needs to be done in order to live the life that has to be lived.
I talk to most people like they are little kids. It is not because I want to, but because I have no other choice.
Although the physical growth spurt of a human being is over very quick, mental growth is never-ending.
Mental development is a funny thing.
I hold a level of responsibility that would kill a small man. I love holding it too. It comes with a sacrifice - or it doesn't. It depends on how you see it.
The higher you soar...
Less people will be able to relate to you. No one can see you anymore. People won't be able to see you even if they had binoculars on.
People only see others for who they truly are at their level and below. When they look up and see you, they only see what you represent to them.
For the first time I noticed it living in China, when the locals saw me merely as an image of a foreigner. They couldn't see who I really was and how I really felt.
Later, I experienced the same with the university students I used know. I remember sitting in a house party surrounded by dozens of people and thinking: "These people have no idea". Then, the same happened with my countrymen when I returned back to Finland.
People have no idea what's going on with me, unless I intentionally throw it in front of their face.
This is a real problem women face with their immature men. Men are completely unaware what's going on, because they just cannot see it or cannot understand a thing.
Likewise, people see only an image of me. An image that is partly in my control. Even if I tried to show my true face, they wouldn't necessarily see it.
Why? Believe it or not, but it's possible to go beyond someone's understanding. Eyes are mirrors to your soul, but what if others are too afraid to look?
This halo effect seems like some wizardly magic.
It has always been like this.
When you were a kid, you saw adults as superheroes. You didn't really see them and couldn't understand them either.
You couldn't see how anxious, nervous and depressed your parents might have been.
You only experienced the pain of adults when they directly shouted it at you or showed it in some other way.
The reason why Hollywood actors are so successful is because people look up to them. People cannot see who the actors truly are and as a result, they can convey the perfect artificial image to the viewers.
No one saw what was going on with Robin Williams when he killed himself, because no one could. He was too good to be seen.
People cannot see you, because they haven't experienced what you have experienced. We can only relate to experiences we have also had.
The ordinary man has no idea what is going on with the people who actually produce. They have no idea what we are going through and they will likely never see the depth of our souls.
Let me tell you a secret: no one is a superhero or Skywalker. Everyone feels pain, and at the top, the mood swings are more common and often the reason behind mental growth. Mental growth causes the success.
A successful person is building an ivory tower where he is alone sitting at the top in his golden throne, looking down on everything he has built, and feeling fulfilled.
The man knows he built the ivory tower on his own. He turned the demon into an angel, but the demon never disappeared.
The ivory tower is a price we want to pay in order to live the life we want to live.
Right now, most people I want to associate with are my business partners.
Who else? It's not like I can relate to anything students do or the troubles office workers face. Truth be told, I would care less.
I dream of a day when I find a girl who is at my same level. Who can actually see me for who I really am, and I can see her for who she really is.
There are many innocent girls who look at me like I am the absolute shit, but they can only offer sweetness and that's not what I am really after.
People who rate girls from 1 to 10, and mostly care about looks, live in a world of boys. Even if they wanted to, they wouldn't be able to see beyond the surface.
Surface is their reality. My reality is as deep as the ocean and as high as the sky.
If your goal is to have as many friends as possible, then you should stay mediocre, because that's where almost everyone is.
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